And there I was singing to my daughter on her changing table in the morning again. Because she still hates diaper changes. At a year and a half. In fact, there might be a lot of crying every time you change her diaper. And by you I mean me and my husband. Of course. Though if you would like to relieve us of that duty you are more than welcome. Just kidding! But not totally.
Anyways, back to my story. There I was, singing my heart out while changing my little girl’s diaper, pumped up on bullet proof coffee and sunshine. It was quite the sight. Our song of choice? Bob Marley’s “Three Little Birds”. And I was singing that phrase “baby don’t worry about a thing because everything’s gonna be all right” with great conviction, hoping that both our brains would get the message. And guess what? It worked! At least this morning… And since my brain was fired up curtesy of my coffee, it immediately leaped to all the other times music works to motivate or calm (or excite!) my daughter.
Have you ever noticed this phenomenon with your kids? Especially your SWCs (Strong Willed Children)? Take for example a car ride. Even a 1 1/2 year old can demonstrate a tremendous amount of patience on an hour (or even an 18 hour!) car ride if they have their favorite music on. Another great example is a lullaby. Somehow those innocent songs keep our children still enough to drift off to dreamland. And they work better at keeping wiggleworms still than any threat that at least I can think of! Though I must admit that the threat of getting rocked rather than getting to lie in bed does work occasionally for my daughter. Lol. But still not nearly as well as a lullaby. In fact, my daughter so loves her songs that she will tell me which lullaby she wants for bed and nap time…..at only 19 months old. (It’s always “star” or “Pooh”. I’ll let you guess what that means 😛 )
Even though music works so well at encouraging patience in my daughter (and myself!), some days I forget about it till it’s my last resort. When really it should probably be the first thing I try. After explaining why she needs to be patient and when she can have what she wants, of course. So how am I going to remind myself to use my trick of (non-YouTube video!) music? By making a list of course! Because as an overtired mom who adores words and organization I just have to make a list. Since you might not have done this yet yourself (surely I’m not the last mom to think of it!) I thought I would share my list with you. Before taping it to my (non-magnetic) fridge. Because let’s face it, most meltdowns we try to avoid happen in the car or when we are at a critical point in dinner prep. Anyways, here it is!
- “What We Are Doing Now” by ME (that’s right, my number 1 go-to calming song at the moment is really just me explaining to E what we are doing and why in a song. It might sound a little weird, but it is just weird enough to get E’s attention which is what I’m going for!)
- “The Pink Panther Theme Song” by Henri Mancini (this has remained among one of her top favorites since birth)
- “Moon River” by Henri Mancini
- “A Bird Without Wings” by Celtic Thunder
- “Three Little Birds” by Bob Marley
- “New Day Dawning” by Celtic Thunder
- “Pooh’s Theme Song”
- “Wheels on the Bus” (she actually sings this one with me!)
- “If You’re Happy and You Know It” (her favorite part is the clapping and the stomping – she is most enthusiastic)
- “Bingo” (she has now started singing this one with me!)
- “Zombies dans Paris” by Pow Wow
- “Le Lion Est Mort Ce Soir” by Pow Wow
- “This Old Man”
- “Rain, Rain, Go Away”
- “Patty Cake, Patty Cake”
See any of your own go-to songs on my list? Have any to suggest? Please let me know in the comments below! And if you haven’t made a list of your own patience-inspiring songs, please feel free to steal mine!
Have a beautiful day ❤